Planning a bachelorette party can be a tough task. There’s just so much to think about when you’re doing the organizing. Getting people to come is the first step to having a great party.
Out of all of the pre-wedding festivities, the bachelorette party might be the most fun. When was the last time you had a chance to get your closest friends together for a night or weekend of adventures and debauchery? (Whether they’re rated PG or R is up to you). And while the bride is usually not so involved in planning the bachelorette party, the one thing she does have a say in is the guest list. And while picking a group of your besties to spend a weekend with would usually be a no-brainer, the process becomes a little bit stressful when you combine different personalities, the mixing of friend groups, and a whole slew of accompanying dynamics.
So who gets an invite, and who doesn’t? We’ll break it down for you.
Here are a few tips for creating a hen party guest list.
Get the bride-to-be in on the action
The guest of honour should have some say when it comes to who cuts the hens night Brisbane guest list (I mean, it is her hen do). Before you make any calls or send out any invitations, sit down with the bride-to-be and discuss who she wants (and doesn’t wish to) at her last hurrah. Of course, if you’re going to surprise her with a special guest or two that you’re sure she’ll love – like maybe her BFFs from uni who moved across the ocean? – go for it!
Only invite family at the bride-to-be’s request
As we all know, hen parties can get a little outrageous. If you’re planning a wild night of drinking and debauchery, there’s a good chance the bride-to-be won’t want her mum, in-laws or other family members in attendance. It’s best to ask about her so that she’s not surprised (in a wrong way) when the event rolls around.
Invite everyone on the bride-to-be’s list (even if you know some can’t make it)
Also if you 100% understand that a few guests will be caught up in work, on vacation or have prior commitments on the date of the hen party, it’s essential that they feel loved and in the loop – especially if they’re part of the bride-to-be’s inner circle. Sure it may seem silly to “waste” an invitation to you, but the gesture will mean a lot to them.
You can invite more than just the bridesmaids
Hen party invites aren’t reserved for bridesmaids and bridesmaids alone – anyone can get in on the fun (even guys). If the bride-to-be wants to add a few new names to her hen party guest list, it’s her prerogative. Plus, the more, the merrier, right?
Don’t over invite
You should at least have a rough idea of what you want to do before you set your hen party guest list in stone. Some activities are better suited for smaller groups, so you don’t want to over-invite. For example, if you’re going to spend the day at a spa getting facials and hot stone massages, you probably only want to invite a handful of people. However, if you’re looking to do something like club hopping or going to a pub, you can make it a little lengthier.
If the type of bachelorette getaway you have in mind seems at odds with a particular friend’s beliefs, it is probably best to exclude them from the invite list and save them from an awkward trip. In this situation, and depending on your relationship, it may be best to explain your reasoning to them in person, so they don’t feel slighted. Keep this in mind if the tables are turned, and you find yourself facing a friend that declines an invitation to participate for the same reasons. In the end, it is more vital that you accept your friend’s personal beliefs than damage your relationship over their presence during some or all bachelorette activities.
ONLY THE MOST IMPORTANT PEOPLE MAKE THE LIST!
Hen parties have been a tradition for centuries in which a ceremony is held in celebration of the bride to be. The significant question ringing in every maid of honour’s mind is “who should I invite and am I completely certain that they are still friends?”. Now, it’s probably a good idea to team up with the bride on this one, but if you’re trying to keep it a secret, then taking a peek at the wedding guest-list will probably be the best start – usually received via a not-so-clueless groom or groomsman.
Some brides will want their Mum or Gran there, and some won’t. You’ll need to adjust the hen party plans accordingly to accommodate the age range. It might be that you choose to do an activity during the day for the ‘younger’ contingent and then have a meal and drinks in the evening where any ‘oldies’ can join in. Or why not have two dos! Go away for a weekend with the girls and then have a second do somewhere local, maybe in a restaurant so that the relatives can join in.
When putting the hen party invite list together, think about group numbers. Too small and it can be challenging to book the best activities as there are minimum group sizes. Too large and it can get a bit of a nightmare trying to co-ordinate everyone.
If there are people that you have to cross off the list, then just send them a quick note to explain why. That way, there’s less likely to be any awkwardness at the wedding when you see them.